We lived in Texas the first few years I was a JW and I remember a lot of fun times. We had people over for dinner at least once a week or went to someone elses house. We did a lot of fun activities. Then in 1988 we moved to Delaware and everything changed. People did not have each other over like they did in the south. There were periods of fun times the first few years but after that it all went down hill and so did my health. Out of 30 years I was in there were maybe 4 good years and that was it. I am so thankful I am out because my husband and I are enjoying our life and having fun again!!
Aunt Fancy
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Being a JW Used to Be Fun :-)
by snowbird inwe found some people who were happy to welcome us into their homes, even offering us food and drink.. sometimes, they would flag us down and ask for the magazines, walk miles to the kh meetings, come to our defense if someone got ugly or rude.. now, jw's are either routinely ignored or outright vilified.. no one respects them anymore.. sad.. .
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Troll Accusations
by Frazzled UBM ini have noticed that some of us are a bit too eager to label new posters as trolls.
while it is clear that there are some posters who just like to stir up trouble or are out and out apologists there are others who are witnesses starting to have genuine doubts and so ask questions but then when they see the responses the cognitive dissonance kicks in and they push back and argue with what they are being told.
this can lead to very negative reactions from jwn members and accusations that the person is a troll.
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Aunt Fancy
I agree Frazzled, and that is why I never call someone a Troll. You will be able to see it as time goes on and you are right many come on here and they are still going to meetings and are just starting to wake up. If we are cruel to them it can send them right back into the cult. We can become as bad as the WTS if we aren't careful.
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When a JW's life comes close to its end...
by suavojr intalking with a long time elder last night, was very revealing.
he has been a jw for over 60 years, a man that was incarcerated in cuba in his early 20s and faced great loss and suffering over his beliefs and for being born in a communist country.
this brave man is now brittle and low-spirited.. while nightfalls on his life, he is made aware the end is near.
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Aunt Fancy
My parents have never been JW's but are Christians and both went to college and invested and saved. They are in their late 70's and very happy and have enjoyed their life traveling to many parts of the world. My mother in law on the other had grew up as a JW and she is in her mid 80's. She is so depressed because the end is not here and she is very difficult to be around. She was around when they gave many of these dates and was told not to get married and have children.
It breaks my heart that so many of them are getting old and their expectation of the end is not here. They lived most if not all of their life thinking they would never die. Rutherford sure did sell them a bill of goods!!
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Who Ever Votes No In The Kingdom Hall?
by metatron inhow many of you have ever observed no votes in kingdom halls?
especially for spending on stuff?.
i've actually seen a few close votes but i is my experience unusual?
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Aunt Fancy
If you don't count the voting done on the color choices for the KH and those types of votes, I only once saw a situation where a sister voted against the rest of the congregation. She was a very vocal sister and didn't take crap off of anyone.
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The dumest thing an elder ever said to me..
by new hope and happiness inconversation with an elder...i said " did you watch due south yesterday" and he said " ive got far more important things to do".
i mean that comment of his got me to thinking and wondering, and made me see he was missing out on living..and i think that comment was the straw that broke this boys faith, and started my i dont want to be a witness anymore.
kind of wierd how a simple question opened my eyes.. and now as i write this i am watching " the rebel" a 1950s western series, and its great and its even better my 9 year old is watching with me..and there is nothing more important than being happy.. .
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Aunt Fancy
The last Sunday meeting my husband went to the COBE was giving the talk and he said "Jehovah doesn't mess around"! He is one of those old guys who is a stickler and he loves to beat up the congregation. My husband came home and was disgusted with how he handled the talk.
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some changes need to be made
by venting inbut im still in and on the fence.
" remember who owns the fence?".
shunning needs to be tempered.
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Aunt Fancy
Venting, have you checked out JWfacts.com or read Crisis of Conscience? Once you do the research you will definitely be off the fence.
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This is my first post
by Make Lemonade ini wanted to express appreciation to the members of this forum.
there are resources here that are deep.
like we heard from the stage, "what is your depth and breadth of bible knowledge?
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Aunt Fancy
Our therapist told us it takes on average one month for every year to heal from being in a cult. I can definitely tell we are doing much better but it sure is an emotional roller coaster.
i have not read that case, can you tell me where I can get the info on it? I read a lot of the Conte case.
You are right that the victim comes first but the others involved have a long road ahead too, it is very difficult to heal from all abuse.
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How Many Prayed Out Loud whilst they were at a restaurant?
by LoisLane looking for Superman in.
not loudly, but just so your table could hear?.
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Aunt Fancy
I have been with others and they would do it and I hated it because it was so embarrassing. We also had a couple we ate out with and they would leave lousy tips and I would always add money to it. They finally caught on and started giving more.
We had another couple that we would go out with after the Thursday night meeting. The guy would always bow his head and say a silent prayer while his wife, my husband and I would continue to talk and eat.
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Atlanta Int Convention 2014:The Big Party. Does this look like WT believes Armageddon is coming "soon"?
by AndDontCallMeShirley inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=potrr2qxhue.
.. if armageddon is "imminent", why is wt focused on sight-seeing, entertainment, travel, etc.
instead of preaching and saving people??.
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Aunt Fancy
Wow!! I have only been away 2 years and this is nothing like the DC's I use to go to. Wing Commander said everything perfectly. What do you say about this other than it is a CULT!!! Listen Obey and be Blessed!! Those poor children.
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This is my first post
by Make Lemonade ini wanted to express appreciation to the members of this forum.
there are resources here that are deep.
like we heard from the stage, "what is your depth and breadth of bible knowledge?
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Aunt Fancy
I feel a book written about these court cases that involve JW's with the behind the scene information would be very interesting to many current and ex JW's. I know many of the court cases you can find some of the documents on line but you don't get to hear about the workings behind the scene of the WTS and I am not talking about the actual physical abuse but the abuse at the hands of the WTS. So many JW's do not believe these court cases exist.